September Loop Giveaway Participant Writeup

The giveaway will start Wednesday September 4th (tomorrow) at 5pm EST. Everyone will have five minutes to post and tag the following shop, or they will be disqualified from participating. This is because the loop will be broken and will not work if not done by everyone. Please fill in the blanks with your shop, the next stop on the loop, and the item you will be giving away. I will pick a winner for every shop at random and then post a list for you all.

Here is the photo to save and post:


Here is the text to copy and paste:

Next stop is @_____!

Welcome to the #loopgiveaway hosted by @raisingkayde and @simplypaperperfect! Just follow the easy steps listed below for your chance at winning awesome prizes from different shops!

At this stop in our #loop #giveaway, you could win ______!

All you have to do is:

1. Follow @(your account name)

2. Like this post on each shop’s IG account.

3. Follow the other amazing participating shops: Just click on the shop at the beginning of this post and follow. When you get back to me you’ve completed the loop giveaway.

4. For extra entries repost this photo and #SeptemberLoopGiveaway. You can repost as many times as you’d like for additional entries.

This giveaway starts now and ends Monday, September 7th at 5pm EST. Be sure to follow, like and tag on each photo to be entered. Must be 18+ to enter and reside in the United States. This promotion is in no way sponsored, endorsed or administered by, or associated with, Instagram. Winner will be announced by each sponsor within 48 hours of the giveaway ending. Good luck!

To find the shop you will need to tag, look up your IG name below:

@raisingkayde – @simplypaperperfect

❏ @simplypaperperfect – @winsomewalls

❏ @winsomewalls – @yumbabyshop

❏ @yumbabyshop – @littlesweetkins

❏ @littlesweetkins – @stillstitchin

❏ @stillstitchin – @neaccessory1

❏ @neaccessory1 – @chipmunkandcompany

❏ @chipmunkandcompany – @craftycreationsbykim

❏ @craftycreationsbykim – @ritzyrissboutique

❏ @ritzyrissboutique – @moditots

❏ @moditots – @rowanmayfairs

❏ @rowanmayfairs – @dream_willow

❏ @dream_willow – @finding_my_sunshine

❏ @finding_my_sunshine – @theburgundybow

❏ @theburgundybow – @kairabottlebuddies

❏ @kairabottlebuddies – @_monkeys_and_bananas_

❏ @_monkeys_and_bananas_ – @ourgiftshoppe

❏ @ourgiftshoppe – @raisingkayde


Dear Kayde, You’re A Big Boy Now

Dear Kayde,

I’m a huge slacker.

A lot changes in a very short amount of time. But for some reason I never feel that I have anything significant to write.

You are now two years, two months, and twenty-two days old. Weird, and completely unintentional. You’re a genius, but we’ve known this since the day you were born. You go to sleep in your own bed now, in your own room, like a big boy. Most early mornings you come crawling back into my bed, which is okay with me. I’m proud of you for sleeping by yourself for most of the night. You brush your teeth before bed, grab your blankie, binky, and cup, and walk into your room. You’re never very happy about it, as you’re usually whining or crying. But you do it, and that is what’s important.

You still see Daddy the same amount of time, between six and eight days a month. And Daddy pays child support finally, after signing an agreement giving me sole physical custody of you. Now we’re just waiting for the date of our hearing to finalize our divorce.

I’m hoping I’ll be able to get a court order stating that I can take you out of state, so we can move to Austin in about a year. Daddy won’t agree to it, so I’m desperately hoping it will still work out. Otherwise we’re stuck here. I hate it here. And Craig isn’t here. And there are so many better opportunities for us in Austin. I wish Daddy would stop being selfish and think about what’s best for you. I would never keep you from him, you’d still see him just as much.

We’re still living with Bammy and Ampa. It definitely isn’t my favorite place to be, but I do appreciate the opportunity to live comfortably while also saving money for our future. I have a job interview tomorrow, so hopefully I’ll be working a “real” job soon, as well as continuing school in the Fall. I’m trying really hard to not let my anxieties control my life. And I’ll do anything to give you the life you deserve.

I love you so much, Chickaletta.


Body Reality

Hey ladies and gents!

If you’ve kept up with my blog (which I’ll admit is severely lacking in content), then I would assume you’re aware of my body issues. After taking a shower last night, I felt I needed to post about it.

I spent the time between getting undressed and actually starting the shower examining every part of my body. Like literally EVERY part. I’m not sure if it’s in hopes that I’ll have this epiphany and suddenly believe that I’m this beautiful being, or just to remind myself of how disgusting I truly am. The latter is the result of this examination, every time.

But while doing this, I was thinking how sad it is that I’m so ashamed of myself. I have very little control over my natural appearance. It’s sad to think that so many people hide so many aspects of themselves from the world, when they didn’t choose these things.

I hide so much of my body, because I hate the way it looks. I’m embarrassed of the tiny, purple spider veins sprawling across my thighs. I hate the cellulite I see covering my body from the waist down. I hate the little spots all over my calves that never seem to disappear. I hate my round face and the double chin I catch a glimpse of in every reflection. I hate how my face is so unsymmetrical that my eyelashes make one eye appear much smaller, only one eyebrow is capable of having an arch, and half of my smile is almost scary looking. I hide half my face behind my hair, and almost never wear anything exposing my legs. I blame myself. I must be too out of shape, or too fat, or too lazy. Something. Anything to blame myself.

I have some control over my weight and the amount of fat stored on my body, so I can take blame for that. And believe me, I do. But I didn’t get to decide what my face looks like, or how curvy I am, or how many freckles I was going to have splattered across the entirety of my body. And that isn’t fair. It isn’t fair to me, or to anyone else, to be ashamed of these things.

The saddest part of all is that I’m still going to be ashamed. And so is every person advocating “body positivity”, whether they choose to admit it or not. Because as humans, we’re conditioned to feel this way. It sucks. And it’s maddening. But it’s life, and we have to figure out how to deal with it in the least self-harming way.

I am the worst advocate of this. I’m completely aware of all of these things, yet I still blame and hate myself for all of it. It’s irrational. I just hope that some day things regress as far as image goes. Go back to judging people based on their intelligence, what they can accomplish, and who they are as a person. I don’t want Kayde growing up in a society that will shame him for being flawed. Because everyone is flawed. Beautifully flawed.

New Etsy Shop!

Hey All!

I’ve decided to finally open up an Etsy shop!


There’s not much going on over there right now, but I’m hoping to have a mix of different things up soon.

The plan is for it to be mostly party related items such as invitations, decor, and instant downloads. Then I’ll be adding some cute graphic onesies and such!

I’m hoping this will help me save up some funds to put toward the big move that will hopefully be happening!

Check it out and follow my shop to stay updated, maybe I’ll have some things in there soon that’ll peak your interest!

Pick Your Plum Review


Last week I decided to splurge a bit. A little on myself, but mostly on Kayde, especially for his upcoming birthday party. I happened upon Pick Your Plum, which is a site that is dedicated to finding high quality items for low prices. Their motto is “get it before your neighbor”, as the deals they post daily are only available for a limited time and with a limited quantity. Most of the items I’ve seen on this site seem to be geared toward us crafty ladies, as well a lot of cute handmade items. I always see so many things I want to buy, but feel too guilty spending money (I’m cheap). But this time I felt it was okay to splurge a bit, as well as finally try this site out, so here is what I bought:

~ Circle Acrylic Ice Cream Cone Stand ($5.99) – This stand holds 16 ice cream cones (or eggs for Easter) and is PERFECT for this idea I had for Kayde’s Vintage Carnival Party.


Here’s an example of exactly how I plan on using this (it’s even using the exact same stand):


~ Crayon Pouch in Triangle and Aztec Diamond ($2.99 each) – How cute are these?! I really have no need for them, especially not two, but for only $3 how could I pass that up? Kayde does love coloring, so these will be great to toss in the diaper bag or in his overnight backpack. The only reason I bought two was because I couldn’t pick which design I loved more!


MY THOUGHTS: I am incredibly happy with this site. Shipping is a flat $4.99, which is about average as far as shipping goes. I love the handmade aspect of a lot of the items they feature, really reminds me of things I’d find on Etsy. Including shipping, I paid $16.96 and I am very pleased with that. So go check out Pick Your Plum!

I’m a single, stay-at-home mom.


Yes, that’s right. I’m a single mother and I don’t have a job.

Doesn’t make sense, right?! I’m sure you have many questions, or maybe you don’t have any.

I’m a full-time mother. I have my son five days a week, which equals out to be precisely 71% of the time.

But I’m consciously aware of where he is and who he’s with 100% of the time.

Sure, I could get a part-time weekend job. And I’m planning to. But here’s how it really is:

1. I don’t sit around all day, and I’m not jobless because I’m lazy.

I mean, I’m probably a bit lazy. But who isn’t? I sure as hell don’t just sit around all day without a job because I just don’t feeeel like working. Trust me, I hate working. Or at least I did about two years ago when I last had a “real” job. But sometimes I feel as though working and leaving my son with someone else would be a break for me. “But you get two days off every weekend!” you exclaim. It’s true, I do. But I still make sure I know where Kayde is and who he’s with. A mother’s job is never done, blah blah blah. Sad, but true. And working isn’t the best thing for me right now. Yes, I need more money. But we’re not suffering because of it. Kayde has more than any child would ever need, and he has the best of it all. I find ways to make things work and make ends meet. Besides, if I had a job, I’d just be spending that money on some stranger watching my kid. No thanks.

2. I don’t get to sleep in.

At least not every day. Occasionally, Kayde will snuggle me until almost noon. But that comes with a price; he was probably up every half hour with respiratory issues the night preceding. He also doesn’t go to bed until he chooses (the perks of sharing a room with your mom for the time being), which sometimes means 11pm. This means I don’t go to bed until at least 11pm.

3. I don’t get to shower regularly.

I’m lucky if I get more than four showers in a week. Yes, more than just showering every other day. For example, this week I’ve taken two so far. I know, I’m gross. But when you have no one to watch your child, and he doesn’t go to bed until almost midnight, that’s really your only chance to shower. What’s worse, is that he can sense when I’m not there while he’s asleep, so I have about fifteen minutes before he cries and doesn’t stop until I snuggle him. I’m not capable of fifteen minute showers.

4. I change every diaper, give every bath, and wake up every time.

Besides the one or two days that he spends at his father’s house, I am responsible for everything. That means every morning poop is mine to clean, every bath is mine to give and clean up after, and every time he wakes during the night, I have to wake up as well.

5. He is not my only responsibility.

Not only do I have to be consciously aware of Kayde every second of every day and tend to his every need, but I also have other things to accomplish at the same time. I take college courses online. I somehow manage to do very well in school, while being beat in the leg with a wooden train track. I do the laundry, and the dishes, and clean everything else, while Kayde is behind me making messes. I cook dinner and bake cakes, while Kayde insists he needs to be held every moment that I’m in the kitchen. Not to mention running errands and watching friends’ toddlers.

6. It’s lonely.

Even though I always have Kayde around, I still get lonely. 90% of my conversations are with an almost-two-year-old. The topics and vocabulary are very limited. Sometimes I want a job just so I can have more social interactions with anyone older than twelve. And at the end of the day, when Kayde finally passes out, I have no one to talk to. No one to share my daily experiences with, or share the tasks that come along with caring for a toddler. It’s exhausting, and I’m alone.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Kayde. He is the very best part of me. I wouldn’t change the fact that I have him, and I don’t regret a thing. But it’s not easy, whether you’re with your child’s father or a single mother, whether you work full-time, part-time, or not at all. Raising a child is tough.